PUAvictim

1. Bliss Said,

   First off congratulations on understanding that pua’s (most of us) use the game to improve ourselves. Of course there are guys out there whose primary objective is use this to get laid by as many women possible but a vast majority (like my clients) use it to find someone special.

   The game (no matter what branch of pick up you follow) is primarily used to attract women. (thats why its called Pick up…lol) If you take qualifying seriously and know how to do it right, you should have a pretty good idea what type of girl she is.

   Throughout the interaction you should use less routines, and bring more and more of your core out. After a couple of dates you should have an idea as to whether you guys get along or not.

   If you realize that this girl is worth giving up the game for… this is the start of a relationship and the game stops right there. Sure there are elements of inner game that you will carry on forever but I would think you would wanna be with someone who would love and care for you (flaws and all)… this includes telling her about pick up and hopefully she is as understanding as puavictim… ; )

2. Bliss Said,

   I’m with you on that. I told my girlfriend after about 2 months in the relationship. It’s just sux because almost right after I decided to keep her, me and my wing started our own company, LIPUA. So now Im sarging to teach not to get girls. Im still with her and its been about 1 1/2 years. I still socialize and talk to who ever is near because that’s who I am. But I had to stop picking up girls all together. It’s one thing to be in the game for self interest and having fun, but when business becomes a part of it, it gets hard.

3. Seductor Alfa (POKER) Said,

   Well, maybe im coming a little polemic here but, we gotta understand a couple of things as well, yes, a lot of us are looking for that perfect 10, HB of our dreams and stuff, however, by nature we are poligamic beings (we males) that´s what science says, we are as well, thinking beings, so yes, is not an excuse for cheating, but is hard after years of missleading and missunderstanding the interaction patterns and techniques to stay with one girl, after going thru all the process, so… my advice to my students or people i coach is, yes, go out there, practice, get laid, meet girls, but take it as a long “casting” process for the role of “the girlfriend” in the movie of your life, the more interactions you have, the better skills you are gonna get, the more women you meet, more socially comfortable you are gonna be with beautiful women around you, so, when you find that girl that is right for you, you are gonna be prepared, you are gonna be able to stay and keep on track of what she saw in you that was attractive to her.

   This is another topic, some “pua´s” that i think would be better to call simply “players” tend to lie, invent, and fabric stories, backgrounds, even names and lifes, how would you expect to settle down in some point with a girl if you start lying? that´s not what the game is about, the game is about improving yourself, to cultivate the advantages and minorize the disadvantages that we have, is like today, i just came from giving a seminar, and one of my students told me “how do i know how much is ok to lie, how do i know if this girl is the one?”
   so my answer is … “that´s why you don´t lie… ever” is ok to enchance your own attributes, for example,
   “hey girls, you gotta see this, a guy just teached me a great magic trick, look” and go with a seduction pattern routine with magic, is not true probably that you just met a guy that teached you that, but is not a BIG fat, horrible lie, is just a pick up line whatsoever, but saying “Yeah, im a profesional magician, im preparing a new show for the Luxor hotel, they are kicking out criss angel for me” when you barely know how to perform and Emsley count, is just not right, anyway, back to the point, you gotta be sincere.

   And about telling a girl you are a pickup artist, is just like anything else in the game, if you make of it a big deal, she is gonna think about it as a big deal, if you just tell her about it in a casual, normal cool way, it doesn´t have to be a painful experience, i had told some girls about it, the analogy that i use for it is;

   Is just like you girls, everybody expects from girls to be polite, classy and girly, when you just don´t get it from your parents what do a lot of you do? you get etiquete lessons, no one objects or judges that, same with guys, we are expected to know how to pick up girls, how to start interactions and at the end, to behave like a men should behave, so is just improving ourselves, nothing else than normal

   I love your blog Puavictim, sure is gonna get a lot better when you start posting more often, count with me to comment

   take care

   POKER

   Pd: you should go to the comunity (seductoralfa.ning.com) and post some inside from the girls, the guys could learn a lot from you, see ya!

4. Oribi Said,

   Question: Why do you call yourself a victim?

5. PUAvictim Said,

   I call myself a victim because my boyfriend was a pick up artist. I am a proud victim, if it wasn’t for the Pick up community, we might not be together

6. Oribi Said,

   But victim by definition is a term applied to people who have been wronged.
   “an unfortunate person who suffers from some adverse circumstance ”
   “anyone suffering physical, emotional, or financial harm as a direct result of a crime.”

   I think I see what you’re getting at with the term, but this makes me think of people who victimize others and do them harm. That’s what a victim is - someone who has been wronged or harmed by the hands of someone else. Your boyfriend didn’t victimize you or harm you, I’m sure, so I guess it doesn’t really make sense.

   Sorry, I don’t mean to sound nit-picky and I’m enjoying reading your blog. That’s just one thing that really stood out to me. Bookmarking the site to read more

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